Happy WellBeing Life: How to avoid summer burnout

Velvet’s contributing wellbeing editor, Caroline S. Asante offers expert advice on avoiding summer burnout by mastering the power of saying no, plus offers readers the chance to win £270-worth of summer wellness products

Summer is a time for relaxation, but it can quickly become overwhelming with too many commitments. Learning to say no is an essential skill to protect your peace and avoid burnout. Here’s how to do it effectively:

1. Understand Your Limits Knowing your limits is the first step in setting boundaries. Reflect on what you can realistically handle and prioritise your wellbeing. Recognise when you’re spreading yourself too thin and need to cut back.

2. Be Clear and Direct When declining an invitation or request, be clear and direct. You don’t need to give a lengthy explanation. A simple, ‘I’m sorry, I can’t make it,’ is sufficient. Being honest and straightforward is respectful to both you and the other person.

3. Offer Alternatives If you want to maintain a connection but can’t meet the request, offer an alternative. For example, suggest another date that works for you or propose a different way to catch up. This shows that you value the relationship while still respecting your boundaries.

4. Practice Self-Care Saying no is a form of self-care. It allows you to focus on what truly matters and ensures you have time for activities that rejuvenate you. Whether it’s spending time with loved ones, engaging in hobbies, or simply resting, prioritise your needs.

5. Communicate with Empathy It’s important to communicate your boundaries with empathy. Acknowledge the other person’s feelings and express your gratitude for their understanding. For example, ‘I appreciate the invitation, but I need to take some time for myself’.

6. Reflect on Your Values Understanding your values can guide your decisions. Reflect on what’s most important to you and let that inform your choices. When your actions align with your values, it’s easier to say no without guilt.

7. Practice Makes Perfect Saying no can be challenging, especially if you’re used to pleasing others. Practice in small situations to build your confidence. Over time, it will become more natural, and you’ll feel more empowered to protect your peace.

8. Seek Support If you find it difficult to say no, seek support from friends or a therapist. They can provide guidance and help you develop strategies to set boundaries effectively. Remember, it’s okay to ask.

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Caroline S. Asante is a certified meditation teacher, holistic health expert and a former BBC broadcaster. She is the founding editor and writer of happywellbeinglife.com Follow her on Instagram @happy_wellbeing_life Join the site and subscribe to the newsletter at happywellbeinglife.com